Engagement is a promise you make when you discover the person that you want to share the rest of your life with and you commit yourself – “I’ll marry you!”
There are tears of joy, laughter, gifts, and celebration to seal this promise between the two who are in love and their families and friends.
During the engagement, they should start to bring a new level of transparency and emotional closeness into their relationship. It could be also a time of some conflict as each has to deal with views, beliefs, values, hopes, and dreams of the other.
It’s a time to deepen their spiritual intimacy sharing their faith and their relationship with God as they learn to seek Him for their future, trusting in His wisdom and guidance in each step they take in planning their life together.
Engagement is the period when you draw your map, not with every detail, but establishing the principal direction of where you want to go, and put some landmarks to easy your road in marriage.
There are many of those landmarks you will want to discuss at length with your fiancée and listen to advice from both families on how you will manage any differences you may have in culture, finances, background, age, education and build the unique family you will form with this person who is the love of your life.
The engagement period is a time of romance, hope, expectations and a challenge to maintain the right intellectual, emotional, spiritual and physical patterns you will want in your marriage. Remembering that what you sow during this season you will reap later. It is worth it to make some sacrifices now to later enjoy all the fullness of God’s blessing and avoid seeds of mistrust, jealousy, disrespect, and fear.
In the Biblical times, an engagement was a commitment of the people who would be married also with their families and friends who would help them to construct a solid family life.
The most beautiful example of engagement we have is Jesus. When he was about to leave this earth and go to the Father He said to His disciples: `I´m going to prepare a place for you, I will come back and take you to be with me.” A period of separation can be healthy during engagement. If the ones who will be married can be briefly separate and maintain the promise they made to each other, they have a firm foundation for their relationship. Some people will refuse to be away during engagement, and then cannot stay together during marriage.
Jesus is now away from His bride. He is trusting that she is getting herself ready for their reunion when He comes back. All the couples that keep their promise to each other during engagement, will continue to follow the model of the love relationship that Jesus portrayed: “…just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her to make her holy”. It is a great privilege to give this testimony to the world.
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